Over the course of my life, I've seen and heard other people talk about their close relationships with their parents.
I've always wondered what that must be like-to love and be loved by a mother and father so much, with a close relationship with them. Wanting to spend time with them and enjoying the time downy together.
Growing up in an atmosphere of abuse stole that from me. Instead, I grew to despise and even hate both of my parents and the step parent in my life.
It's horrible to realize that I have always looked with suspicion on other relationships between parents and their children, wondering if there is anything questionable to watch out for. If those children need protection; if those adults really do enjoy their relationships with their parents.
This is the result of child abuse and trauma. A person who never loves their parents or wants to continue a relationship with them. Instead, a person who lives a painful life watching others and feeling the loss of something they never had.
My only recourse was to foster the best relationship with my own children, to be the best mother I could be to them, and try to develop a close relationship to nurture and enjoy as they grew up and became adults. I believe I accomplished that. We are very close and they confide in me; they want to spend time with me.
Love your children. Treat them with care and teach them to be gentle and kind by example. Don't hurt them, and protect them from anyone else who tries to hurt them. If you don't, they will live a life resenting you and you will miss out on a beautiful relationship.
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